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It’s the little things that keep us together…

~  by Melody


So far, 2014 has been a tough challenge for us on a several levels. We’ve had car issues and repair bills. We’ve had to rehome our dog due to unfortunate circumstances. My father then passed away (yes, I did see it coming. It still doesn’t make it hurt any less).

Healing and growth doesn’t always take place in the world of happy smiles, rainbows and unicorns. It gets messy, ridiculous, crazy and downright ugly. My father used to tell me that “Pressure makes diamonds.”

Life goes on despite all the chaos around us. As much as I want to pull the covers over my head and wallow in self pity, I have to keep going because there is a baby that needs me and the bills still need to get paid.

Something that really helps in times like these is to remember to be gentle to myself. For me that’s a hot bath in peace and quiet. It’s nothing extravagant or expensive – it’s as simple as putting a handful of sea salt and some hyssop essential oil into the water and I am good to go. During that time, I pray…and pray.. and pray.

It’s the little things that keep me going right now. For example, I can be doing the dishes and look over at Noah, who gives me the biggest grin ever, just because I’m his mother. And things like that remind me that there are forces bigger and greater in this world that I simply have no control over, but I can control how I react to them. Times like this I just have to remember that…
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…it wasn’t anything I did…

…it wasn’t about who I am…

…it was not about money…

…and perhaps what we really need in those times is just a moment of sharing unconditional love, and in that moment that we’ll know everything will be fine.


“We are what our thoughts have made us.”

~ blog post by J.R. Bishop


We are what our thoughts have made us; so take care about what you think. Words are secondary. Thoughts live; they travel far.”

~ Swami Vivekananda, Indian Spiritual leader of the Hindu religion (Vedanta). Disciple of the famous 19th century mystic-saint Sri Ramakrishna of Calcutta. Founder of the Ramakrishna Order of Monks. 1863-1902.


You don’t have to look too deep into the current metaphysical community to find some variation of this quote. I’m sure Vivekananda wasn’t the first to say it, either. A more modern version is “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.” attributed to Henry Ford. The primary message is that the level of our successes and failures is heavily dependent on how much we allow ourselves to succeed or fail. Sure, there’s always that random chance, that shot-in-the-dark, that lucky winning lottery ticket or that blown tire because of a random nail in the middle of the road. We can’t control things like that but we can influence just about everything else.

A lot of people outside of the community read over the metaphysical “woo-woo” stuff and dismiss it as fluff, but every now and then you see common threads crossing over and into the mainstream media. This is a good thing! It means that we’re starting to pay attention to things that we should have been paying attention to all along. Better late than never.

I picked up a copy of Men’s Health the other day at the store. I used to run marathons and I hope to get back to running again soon, so I figured I’d look for some motivational articles and maybe a new exercise or two. In the February 2014 issue on page 70 they have one of those single-page articles that’s mostly a graphic (most of these publication are like that) but this one caught my attention. The title is “The Price of Pessimism” and it’s a brief-but-to-the-point summary of physical affects of negative thinking. Here a quick rundown of what happens when you have a negative thought, according to the article:

  1. Amygdala – Negative thought triggers fight-or-flight response
  2. Spinal Cord – Signal is send through nervous system, organs on high alert
  3. Lungs – airways dilate, breathing rate increases, higher oxygen demands
  4. Heart – pulse and blood pressure spike, inflammatory molecules travel through bloodstream
  5. Liver – liver breaks down glycogen into glucose unnecessarily
  6. Adrenal Glands – if stress continues, adrenaline, cortisol, and other hormones keep heart rate elevated
  7. Kidneys and Gut – blood vessels to inner organs contract, slowing digestion and urine production (good only in a true fight-or-flight situation)

That’s just some of the bad, so what about the good? The article quotes Jeffrey Huffman, M.D., director of cardiac psychiatry at Massachusetts General Hospital saying “Happy and hopeful people are more likely to exercise, eat healthy, and stop smoking.”

What’s my personal view? That developing a more positive outlook in your everyday life will cause you to care more for your life and the lives of those around you in general. The more you care for something the more you enjoy it and that’s what life is all about to begin with.